{"id":450,"date":"2014-03-06T13:39:05","date_gmt":"2014-03-06T21:39:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/solesadmissions.wordpress.com\/?p=450"},"modified":"2014-03-06T13:39:05","modified_gmt":"2014-03-06T21:39:05","slug":"when-intention-and-reality-collide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.sandiego.edu\/solesadmissions\/2014\/03\/06\/when-intention-and-reality-collide\/","title":{"rendered":"When Intention and Reality Collide"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When Intention and Reality Collide<br \/>\nBy Kathryn Bingham; published first @ <a href=\"http:\/\/leadistics.com\/when-intention-and-reality-collide\/\" target=\"_blank\">Leadistics<\/a><br \/>\n<span style=\"line-height:1.5em\">Life isn\u2019t\u2014and perhaps shouldn\u2019t be\u2014about absolute perfection. Setting and striving for ambitious goals offers a certain joy in the journey and anticipated achievement. And yet, sometimes, we face roadblocks, interference and struggle. We\u2019re not operating in \u201cflow.\u201d Our plans go awry.<\/span><br \/>\n\u201cThe best laid plans of mice and men\u201d should read, \u201cthe best laid plans of mice, men <i>and doc students<\/i>!\u201d (If you\u2019re not a doctoral student, substitute your role into the phrase.) Relationships need to be nurtured and maintained. Information you need is not accessible.\u00a0 People you count on do not come through. Interruptions and distractions impede progress. The \u201cbug\u201d circulating in your community slams you, tapping your resilience. Life happens. And you miss a target, self-imposed or one set by others.<br \/>\nI embrace the domain of goal setting with enthusiasm. Aspirations are not only challenging in content (hello, \u201cdoc student\u201d), but time span. My style is to set personal deadlines in advance of any \u201creal\u201d deadlines. Achieving personal deadlines creates a win\u2014gifting me with time to share or pursue broad interests. The difference between the \u201cpersonal\u201d and \u201creal\u201d deadline creates \u201cslack\u201d\u2014time that can be consumed in an adaptation to the original plan as needed. (Process geeks reading this description will recognize \u201ccritical chain\u201d methodologies.)<br \/>\nSo, how do you recover when intention and reality collide? I use a three-step process: Clearing, Analyzing, Reorienting\u2014a \u201ccar\u201d to take me to my goal:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0<i>Clearing<\/i> requires taking a break\u2014a separation from the issue at hand. Taking a walk (or a nap!). Going for coffee. Working out. Tapping into fun and laughter. Whatever the \u201cclearing\u201d activity, the key involves focusing on the moments and the people I\u2019m with, and resolutely NOT consciously allocating brain time to the challenge.<\/li>\n<li><i>Analyzing<\/i> involves recognizing equally what was and what wasn\u2019t working and contemplating my assumptions, beliefs and values\u2014how am I \u201cbeing\u201d and not just how am I \u201cdoing.\u201d What had I anticipated, and which if-then strategies had I employed successfully? What did I miss? What did I not do, that I should have?<\/li>\n<li><i>Reorienting<\/i> incorporates two components. The external \u201ctechnical\u201d piece is a simple plan modification\u2014what occurs when on a calendar. I also own the internal element of assuring I live consistent with my values, learn from and adapt to environmental change, and both prioritize my engagement with others and harmonize who I am within what I seek to do.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There are times I feel aligned with the universe\u2014expansive, empowered and maximizing potential beyond the conventionally possible. And I have times where I am acutely aware of my own humanness. Reconciling the two involves faith, courage, a sense of humor, committing to act on my intentions . . . and, sometimes, taking a car ride.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When Intention and Reality Collide By Kathryn Bingham; published first @ Leadistics Life isn\u2019t\u2014and perhaps shouldn\u2019t be\u2014about absolute perfection. Setting and striving for ambitious goals offers a certain joy in the journey and anticipated achievement. 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