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Giving and receiving feedback isn\u2019t always the easiest thing to do. For some, its the hardest thing to do. \u00a0Last week in class we were discussing the purpose of critical friends. In our program, critical friends are colleagues that provide constructive feedback on our work. \u00a0It\u2019s a necessity if we are to become better writers, presenters, (humans?), etc. \u00a0Giving\u00a0feedback can be difficult because 1) it takes time to give feedback and 2) it can be tricky to convey feedback in a constructive way (don’t type in CAPS if you can help it). \u00a0Receiving\u00a0feedback is also difficult because 1) it means we have to change something about ourselves and 2) it means we need to improve.
\n\"daring<\/a>When I give feedback on papers (and at work), I try to follow Brene Brown\u2019s checklist. \u00a0I understand that feedback is hard to receive and can cause people to become defensive. \u00a0I am also aware that people don\u2019t like the situation to be sugarcoated only to have a bomb of negativity get dropped on them. \u00a0So when I provide feedback I try my best to show the other person that it comes from a place of love and care. \u00a0Giving feedback through a live discussion is very helpful, especially on complex issues. \u00a0That way I can understand what the other person was thinking (which clarifies the intent) so we can find creative ways to address the issue. \u00a0Or in the case of papers, I pose questions instead of criticisms.
\nAs for receiving feedback, I\u2019m fortunate to have critical friends that offer feedback in constructive ways, although the first time reading the comments is always a little tough. \u00a0And sometimes I receive feedback that feels like I was just\u00a0stabbed<\/del>\u00a0jabbed by a knife, but I try to take each comment as an opportunity (or challenge) to improve. \u00a0I hope with time feedback gets easier, but until then, the belief that the feedback is well-intended and a new opportunity will have to do. \u00a0And maybe a box of Mocha Almond Fudge or a big glass of wine.<\/p>\n

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