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A blog post from SOLES MA in Marital and Family Therapy Ambassador, Gloria Saldana.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It\u2019s necessary.\u201d<\/em>– Banksy<\/p>\n

As a graduate student in the field of helping others, I have found that I have spent a lot of my energy focusing on the needs of others. Though I love the work that I do, I have noticed that sometimes I have a hard time saying no, or taking time for myself.\u00a0\u00a0After starting practicum this past summer and with the start of fall semester looming ahead, I have realized that taking time for myself to do things that make me feel better is as important as doing what I can to help others. I realized that being selfish is necessary.<\/p>\n

If selfish turns you off, then think of it as self-care. Self-care is defined as doing something that betters our mental, emotional and physical health. At the start of my program in Marital and Family Therapy, I remember all my professors as well as the second years stressing the importance of self-care. If you\u2019re like me, the first image that popped into my head was a glass of wine and a bubble bath. I remember thinking how silly that seemed. It wasn\u2019t until I started my practicum this summer that I truly understood what they meant by needing to take time for yourself. And again, for me this felt selfish. I felt that not doing everything I could to help, or saying no or even just spending time with friends was not a good way to spend my time. That is, until I realized that doing things for myself made me feel better, and made me more energized to tackle the next week ahead.<\/p>\n

I have found myself saying no. To extra work, to favors, to events. I have learned to take time for myself and learn my limits.<\/p>\n

I have found myself going out. With friends, to the beach, for a walk. Small things that I felt weren\u2019t productive uses of my time have been the best way to reenergize myself.<\/p>\n

Overall, I have found myself to be in better spirits when I listen to my needs and take care of them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important, as graduate students to remember to be selfish. We spend so much time and energy doing all we can to succeed in our fields and work to make a difference for others, but we can\u2019t do that if we aren\u2019t at our best. So with the new school year starting, remember to be a little selfish.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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